Saturday, August 22, 2009

How to tell if your man has another woman...

About a week ago, one of my dearest friends posted the following question in a facebook note... "How do you know if your man/woman has another man/woman?"...

In the heat of the moment, I was able to pull together about eight tell tale signs that were sure to give away any cheating man. Being that I am "only" nineteen years old many may wonder and ask the questions; "what do you know about love?"... and "what do you know about spotting a cheating man?"... Well, while I may say that I am not the most experienced or qualified person to answer this, I will admit that I have had my fair share of relationships, love and YES infidelity!

And from my PERSONAL experience, here are Eight Ways To Tell If Your Man Has Another Woman:

1) As women, we all have the ability to sense when something just isn't right. You may not have any actual evidence or proof of a cheating partner, but the fact that you "feel" that something isn't right, is a red-flag in itself. however, many women are afraid of being labelled as paranoid, so they often cast aside such feelings and try to convince themselves that they are just being silly.... PEOPLE, many people may agree that instinct is a sure fire way of knowing that your partner is cheating or that even if he isnt, something serious is taking place.

2) You may find yourselves spending less and less time together. If you used to see your partner four times a week, now you may only see him once (if you are lucky). You will also find that he calls last minute to cancel plans because "something came up at work" or he has "a family emergency". Although these situations do happen in real life, what identifies a cheating partner is that these situations happen to occur frequently.

3) He WILL accuse you of cheating. Too many times have I heard of women being baggered by their partners about their whereabouts and being accused of cheating, only to find out that in the end it was really their partner who was engaing in an outside relationship. This happens to be a very common trait in cheating partners as it is a mechanism used to divert your attention away from him and unto yourself. Instead of looking at HIS behaviour and HIS dishonesty, you spend a lot of time trying to figure out what YOU could possibly be doing to appear to be unfaithful.

4) He will constantly call to find out where you are and what you are doing. A lot of people may actually argue that this is NOT a reason to think your partner is cheating and may consider that he is probably just missing you and wants to make sure that you are ok. Somehow, I cannot see how receiving a call or text every half hour, asking about your whereabouts, is heathly in anyway and I will consider the possibility that maybe... just maybe... he wants to know where you are to ensure that you are no where near where he really is.

5) He will talk to you about the other woman, refering to her as his "stalker"... his "really good friend"... or, my personal favourite, his "crazy ex-girlfriend". She will be the woman you always happen to hear about, even if you are never the one to bring it up.

6) You might actually meet the other woman, and when you do, you will know it is her because your partner will do either one of two things...
(a) he will introduce you to her as his "friend" and later you will have a dispute where he will argue that he simply "forgot" to put the "girl" infront of the "friend"... OR ...
(b) he will introduce you to her by your name and your name alone, without any addition of a title such as girlfriend, lover or anything of the sort.
Instinct will inform you that something about that introduction was not right and durinf such a meeting, do not expect any hugs, kisses or romantic gestures from your partner.

7) In extreme cases, there will be one or two periods, lasting two to three days each, where you will NOT hear from your man. No text messages. No calls. Not even a telepathic feeling... And when you do hear from him, he will simply say that he was really sick and too weak to pick up the phone to text or call.

8) Last but not least (and my personal favourite), you will know your man has another woman when you have a stupid man, who cannot multi-task, and you catch him in the act. At this point in time, he will prove himself to be even more stupid by trying to deny the evident facts...

Thank you for reading, and as I said before, this was written and based on personal experience so if there anything I seemed to have left out, comments and suggestions are most welcomed...


  1. honestly I totally agree. but I wud like 2 add, although one might think it gross but ur man's scent changes, even the taste of his dick. I mean if those arent red flags I dont knw wat is.

  2. hahaha oh lawd my word woman, and how do you know that the taste changes??? please elaborate lol

  3. when a man and a woman engage in sexual relations the exchange in fluids, leave residual evidence. even though most of it might have been washed away, small remnants remain, which leads 2 the change in scent and taste. I have had friend who actually discovered that his woman was cheating on him in that way. He was eating her and found that it was different, when he confronted her, she admitted her infidelity.I knw that the concept may sound funny but I is logical. but think bout have u ever come across someone whose natural smell was exactly thye same as another person,.... obviously not.

  4. ok...but that is hear say isnt it. what i want to know is if YOU have ever experienced something like that...because i havent and until i have i dont think that i ca use that as a sure fire way of discovering if my man is cheating...alot of other things can result in that eg... if he is stressed out his fluids may develope a different taste...or simply a change in diet etc etc... if you get what i am saying, but is your comment based on personal experience?

  5. "(a) he will introduce you to her as his "friend" and later you will have a dispute where he will argue that he simply "forgot" to put the "girl" infront of the "friend"..." - hilarious on a good few levels...